You Still Care. You Just Don’t Know How to Reach Each Other.
Couples therapy to help you talk, reconnect, and find your way forward—before it’s too late.
It’s Not Just the Arguments. It’s the Loneliness.
You might be lying in the same bed but feeling worlds apart.
One of you is always trying. The other feels blamed—or shut down.
There’s tension, silence, or the same old fight on repeat.
And underneath it all?
You’re wondering:
Is this it? Are we too far gone? Will we ever feel close again?
This isn’t what you imagined for your relationship—or your family.
You want connection, not conflict. Closeness, not criticism.
But right now, even talking feels risky.
You’re not broken. You’re not failing.
You just need a different kind of support to get out of this stuck place.
This Is the Work I Do—Helping Couples Find Their Way Back
Hi, I’m Alister. I work with couples who care about each other but feel lost, hurt, or disconnected.
The problem
Sometimes there’s been a betrayal. Sometimes the tension has just built over time.
One of you is trying to fix things, while the other isn’t sure how—or if—it can be fixed.
Couple Counselling
What I offer is a calm, structured space where both of you can speak and be heard.
Not to pick sides. Not to rehash old arguments.
But to get underneath the patterns, the pain, and the protection that’s keeping you apart.
The Tools
I use a compassionate, evidence-based approach—drawing on Internal Family Systems (IFS) and the Developmental Model of couple therapy—to help you understand what’s really happening beneath the surface.
Creating change
It’s not about quick fixes. It’s about clarity, emotional safety, and a way forward that makes sense for both of you.
What Working Together Looks Like
You don’t need to have all the answers before starting therapy.
You just need a willingness to look at what’s really going on—and a guide to help you through it.
Here’s how we begin:
1. The First Session
We meet for a full 90 minutes to explore what’s brought you here, get to know each other, and begin understanding the deeper story of your relationship—where it began, where it’s hurting, and what’s at stake.
2. The Relationship Assessment
In our second session, we slow things down and look at how you communicate, where things get stuck, and what each of you truly needs. From there, we create a roadmap for the work ahead.
3. Ongoing Therapy
Sessions are 90 minutes, online or in-person in Zurich, and ideally held weekly.
This gives us the time and space to go deeper—to untangle patterns, rebuild trust, and help you find your way back to each other.
In Zurich or Online—Wherever You Are
Most couples I work with meet with me online—from across Switzerland and all over Europe. Online therapy offers flexibility, privacy, and consistency, especially for busy professionals or parents navigating the demands of life. And if you’re near Zurich, in-person sessions are also available.
As for me? I aim to keep things fair and grounded—very Swiss, really. You won’t find me taking sides or handing out blame. Just a calm, neutral space (online or in-person) where both of you can feel seen, heard, and supported.
About me
I’m a couples therapist and relationship coach with a calm, grounded approach to helping people navigate some of the most painful and important moments in their lives. I work with couples who are facing crisis, disconnection, or simply the quiet erosion of closeness that happens over time. Using Internal Family Systems (IFS), Intimacy From the Inside Out (IFIO), and the Developmental Model of couple therapy, I help partners understand themselves and each other in a deeper, more honest way.
Originally from New Zealand and now based in Switzerland, I work with couples across Europe—many of whom are managing big transitions, communication breakdowns, or long-standing patterns they’re ready to change. My goal is to create a space where both of you feel heard, respected, and supported, so you can move forward with clarity, connection, and a renewed sense of possibility.
Working with you
90-Minute Weekly Sessions
Steady, structured support over time. Ideal for couples wanting to understand patterns, rebuild connection, and create meaningful change—one conversation at a time. Read more >>
3-Hour Crisis Session
For couples on the brink—an intensive, focused session to help you stabilise, hear each other, and find a path forward in the middle of crisis. Read more >>
2-Day Couple Intensive
A deep-dive into your relationship over two full days. Designed for couples who want to do months of therapy in a condensed, private format—especially useful for expats, busy professionals, or those navigating big transitions. Read more>>
Individual Relationship Therapy
I work with individuals and couples to end their emotional suffering and create better lives for themselves, their family and their community. Free from the limiting beliefs, anxiety, depression and addictions that have been holding them back from their full expression.
You Can Keep Circling the Same Arguments. Or You Can Try Something Different.
Staying stuck hurts. Avoiding it doesn’t make it go away.
If you’re here, something in you knows it’s time for change.
You don’t have to do this alone—and you don’t have to wait for things to get worse.
Book your first session today and let’s begin the work of repairing, reconnecting, and moving forward—together.
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